Leadership is not just what you say, what you know, or the decisions you make. It is also how consistent your presence feels across different environments.

Leadership and style strategist Mandy Tucker invited the Network for Black Women Leaders to think about style not as surface-level fashion, but as a powerful part of leadership presence, personal brand and self-expression.

The Network for Black Women Leaders Elevate Session, Leadership Style as Strategy: Aligning Who You Are With How You Show Up, explored how identity, visibility and wardrobe psychology shape how women are seen, remembered and recognised.

Black women are often encouraged, directly or indirectly, to fit into narrow ideas of what leadership should look like. To appear professional, but not too bold. Polished, but not too expressive. Confident, but not intimidating. Visible, but not too overbearing, and often that means code-switching, shrinking, softening or editing parts of ourselves in order to be accepted.

Mandy invited us to explore a different question: What if your leadership style could be a strategy rather than a compromise?

Presence begins before we speak

Mandy opened the session by asking participants to consider how they are experienced before they say a word.

What assumptions are people making in the first few seconds? What signals are being sent through posture, colour, tone, energy or clothing? What do colleagues associate with your presence?

This was not about encouraging women to obsess over other people’s opinions. It was about recognising that leadership presence begins before we speak.

“Presence is not about performance. It is about alignment.”

Mandy explained the difference between leadership presence and personal style. Presence is how people experience your authority. Personal style is how you express your identity externally. Where the two meet is your personal brand.

When this alignment is intentional, it can help communicate values, credibility and confidence. When it is disconnected, women may appear polished on the outside but feel unseen, uncomfortable or unlike themselves.

Code-switching is not only about language

The discussion touched on code-switching and shapeshifting.

Mandy reminded participants that code-switching is not only verbal. It can also show up in how we dress, wear our hair, move through a room, express emotion or decide what parts of ourselves feel “safe” to reveal.

For Black women, that can mean straightening our hair, avoiding colour, hiding cultural expression, dressing more formally than others, or trying to present in ways that make other people feel comfortable.

“Code-switching is not only verbal. It can live in our clothes, our hair, our posture and our choices about what feels safe to reveal.”

One participant described the relief of naming this dynamic, explaining that even knowing you are being pushed into a box can become a psychological burden. Not conforming to this shapeshifting may not be you rebelling; it you may simply be you refusing to disappear.

Visibility matters, especially for Black women

Visibility matters. It affects opportunities, sponsorship, influence and how others remember your contribution.

For Black women, this can be complicated. We can be highly visible and invisible at the same time. Our hair, body shape, colour choices, tone and polish may be scrutinised, while our expertise, leadership and value are overlooked.

This contradiction sits at the heart of many Black women’s experiences in professional spaces.

We may be noticed, but not recognised. Watched, but not understood. Present, but not fully seen.

“Black women can feel highly visible and invisible at the same time: noticed, but not always recognised.”

There is power in becoming visible on your own terms. Not to perform for approval, but to ensure your presence reflects your leadership identity.

As Mandy put it, style can help us manage our message. It can communicate confidence, creativity, authority, warmth, clarity or influence before we have even opened our mouths.

Wardrobe psychology and confidence

Mandy also introduced the idea of wardrobe psychology: the way clothing affects how we think, feel and behave.

What we wear can influence our confidence, mood and sense of authority. For a high-stakes meeting, presentation, interview or leadership moment, clothing can help us feel more prepared, grounded and intentional but this does not mean everyone has to wear a suit.

Instead, Mandy encouraged participants to think about what helps them feel aligned. For some women, that may be sharp tailoring. For others, it may be colour, texture, accessories, a signature pair of glasses, or a silhouette that feels powerful and comfortable.

“The question is not: what should a leader wear? The question is: what helps me feel aligned with the leader I am becoming?”

The key is not to copy someone else’s idea of leadership. It is to create a style that supports your own.

Mandy encouraged participants to think about how they want to feel in different leadership moments. A negotiation may require one kind of energy. A panel may require another. A difficult conversation, a keynote, a networking event or a community space may each ask for something different.

Clothing can support those moments when it is chosen with intention.

Dressing for the woman you are becoming

A recurring theme throughout the discussion was transition.

Many women reach a point where their wardrobe no longer reflects who they are becoming. Their body may have changed. Their role may have changed. Their confidence may have changed. Or they may simply feel that the clothes they once relied on no longer match the life, work or leadership identity they are stepping into.

“Your wardrobe should not be a daily reminder of guilt. It can be a tool that supports who you are now and who you are becoming.”

Mandy encouraged women to stay engaged with style, not by chasing trends, but by noticing what feels current, what feels aligned, and what feels outdated in their own wardrobe.

She also spoke about the importance of regular wardrobe edits. Clothes that no longer fit, feel right or reflect who you are can create emotional heaviness. Opening your wardrobe should not become a daily reminder of guilt, discomfort or self-criticism. Instead, your wardrobe can become a practical tool that supports how you want to move through the world.

Style is not vanity. It is strategy.

Perhaps the most important takeaway from the session was that style is not vanity. It is not about perfection, performance or dressing to meet someone else’s standard.

For Black women navigating professional spaces, leadership style can be a form of self-advocacy.

It can help us show up with more clarity.
It can help us feel more grounded.
It can help us become more recognisable for our expertise.
It can help us stop dressing only for acceptance and start dressing from alignment.

That does not mean ignoring the realities of bias, scrutiny or workplace politics. It means making conscious choices about how we want to be seen, what we want to communicate and what parts of ourselves we are ready to reclaim.

Presence is not just about how others see us. It is also about how we see ourselves.

And when leadership style is rooted in identity, confidence and self-knowledge, it becomes more than clothing. It becomes a way of saying: This is who I am. This is how I lead. And I am not shrinking myself to be understood.

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